The Elephant in the Mirror #Review

OMG, I don’t know what’s going on with me, but whatever blogging mojo I once had seems to have officially left the building. I mean I wouldn’t put myself up there with some of the greats of the blogging world, you know the ones, those really down to earth, hilariously, snort your coffee over your keyboard bloggers who manage to juggle three kids, a million and one glitz engagements and all whilst having perfect hair. Honestly, they are the type of woman that if they weren’t so lovely, you would hate a little bit.

I must have been staring at this blank page for weeks, I know I have re-written that first line at least 20 times. I’m still not happy with it, but I think right now it’s about as good as it is going to get. Being honest, I have missed this. I still get a little thrill whenever I hit publish, it’s just the motivation to do the writing which is seriously lacking. But that lack of motivation, of direction, seems to be something that is happening throughout my life right now, not just on here. I’m tired but not sleeping, trying to remain focused and positive but easily distracted and left feeling a little lost.

I feel like I am very much in a bit of a slump and I needed something to get me out of that. Which is why I volunteered to review ‘The Elephant in the Mirror’ by Annette Earl.


I’ll be honest, I was expecting to hate it. I have been given a couple of “self-help” books since Dad’s death and I am struggling to read them. You’ve really got to be in the right frame of mind to pick them up in the first place, and when the one my counsellor gave me started to give me the impression I was an idiot for having a faith, well… Suffice to say I currently have that an a couple others buried under a pile of slightly more appealing, but just as neglected, fiction books my friends had loaned me.

However, with the promise of free stuff*and a deadline (of sorts) to have the blog post written by, I thought if I get nothing else from this book at least it’ll force me back into writing.

The day I received it I was staying at a friend’s house, crashing in her daughter’s bedroom. Unlike at my house, my friend has a firm no TV in the bedroom rule, which I love. It means I always do some reading when I stay at hers and so I took it with me. Also, I have a really bad habit of offering to review stuff and then putting it to one side and not getting round to it. Ok, I’ve only done it once, but it haunts me and I promise that one day the ‘bake your own boyfriend’ cookie cutter will get a review, but it arrived just after I had broken up with OH, yep it’s that overdue, and it went into a box on one of the house moves and well, I think it’s still in my loft somewhere. Anyway, I digress.

The Elephant in the Mirror is one of those books that when you pick it up, it becomes really hard to put it down. The night at my friends it was gone midnight when I finally picked it up and within a few pages I was hooked. When Annette decided to use the analogy of cakes and icing to explain how relationships can enhance a life (icing), but not having them does not take anything away from life (cake without icing is still going to get eaten, am I right?!) that I knew that this is a book that’s talking to me, and I sort of wanted Annette to be my new BFF.

When I read the book it feels more like I am sat having a good catch up with a wise friend, over a glass of wine. The warmth and personality of Annette pours off the page, and unlike some self-help books I have read, it is an easy, enjoyable read. There are exercises to do throughout the book, and the language is simple and easy to get your head around. Hello, she even includes 🙂

Elephant Collage

Now, I have to admit I haven’t finished the book yet. I haven’t had the chance. Life is hectic and I am currently climbing into bed somewhere around midnight ever night. Sensible me, knows that going to bed at midnight and reading for the next hour or so is not conducive to me getting my arse out of bed the next morning, so the book has sat next to my bed, on top of the pile of other neglected books I have been given. However, I am definitely going to finish this book and when I am done, well I am not yet decided. I’m either going to pass on the love and give the book away or it’ll go on my newly acquired bookcase and I will look back at the book and the answers I have given a year from now.

I really don’t feel like I can do this book justice. Annette does not guarantee that this book will change your life, in fact in the first conversation she was very keen to point out that “the book is self-help and based purely on her experience of the world” but I would encourage anyone who is going through some stuff right now, maybe try cuddling up with this book. Especially as the Kindle version of The Elephant in the Mirror is currently available for free until the 3rd Dec. So why not treat yourself?

I am certainly going to finish the book, as soon as my life calms down enough that I can find time to lock myself away for a few hours. If you try the book, do let me know what you think – I would love to hear from you. And hopefully, as I push publish on this review, my mojo is finally back in the building. Fingers crossed.

*I was given a copy of the book to review for free, but obviously, all opinions, pictures, and utter inabilities to finish the book before the review was due, are my own.

6 thoughts on “The Elephant in the Mirror #Review

  1. You make the book sound interesting. I hope you find time to finish it.

    It’s natural to have trouble focusing for a while when you’ve been through so much.

    • I will, as soon as I push through this other one that I have a deadline to give back. Sadly the other one I am reading is a bit of a chew, taking ages to get through. I’m keeping the rest of The Elephant in the Mirror, as my reward.

    • I thought Annette would be a lovely person as she came across like that in the emails she sent about the review. but reading the book, honestly, I just want to meet up with her and beg her to be my BFF.

  2. I love books that I can’t put down. I always read before bed, it actually helps shut my mind down. I’m currently reading more than one book, but this sounds super interesting!

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