I ain’t changing

Today I was watching TV and they were reviewing the papers and they discussed a study which has found that men are less likely to stay with a woman if she’s insecure. Apparently, if a man is insecure then his woman will stick by him, but if the tables are turned and the woman needs reassurance then she is unlikely to find it.

I will be honest my first thought was to worry, thanks to one too many heartbreaks and the bullying I endured all those years ago. But since this morning I’ve had time to think and actually I’m not going to. I am loving and loyal and a great catch,  even if I do say so myself 😉 I deserve someone who will love me, flaws and all. I won’t settle for less. I’m not changing. I’m hoping over time with love and support my anxiety will become less, all it’s going to take is the right guy. We all deserve to be in a relationship with someone who wants us as our worst as well as at our best.

2 thoughts on “I ain’t changing

  1. “I deserve someone who will love me, flaws and all.”
    That is the confidence that men like. I am insecure and I want reassurances all the freakin time. My husband likes it as it makes him feel needed.

    I know that I am awesome and amazing, but I also know that I don’t fit into “society’s” definition of awesome and amazing, and there is nothing wrong with that.

    I’m tired, I fear I’m not making sense so I’m going to wander off now.

    • Aww don’t go, I miss you when you are gone! You are awesome and amazing and I am so pleased you know that. I think I am a bit like you, one one hand I know I am amazing but then on the other I am sooo insecure and I worry. Sometimes I am all “what if he leaves” and then I remind myself that, finally, I was getting and good at the single thing. I am not with S because I need to be, but because I want to be. If he goes I would cry, then pick myself up and move on with my life. I am too strong to be beaten.

      (PS also very tired, not sure that makes sense!)

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