I know, I can hear you now – when your sister/brother has a baby, thank you very much, moving on to the next blog…..
I am an Auntie to two, soon to be three, little girls. Whenever they greet me or talk about me I am referred to as Auntie… the problem is I am not.
They are my cousins kids. My cousin doesn’t have any siblings, and we grew up around the corner from each other and so growing up he was more of a brother than a cousin. When he and his fiancée had their first girl, we were still very close and although my cousin’s partner’s family (keeping up?) complained that we shouldn’t be, me and my sister became Baby girl no. 1’s Aunties.
Enter Baby girl no. 2, and although we don’t see as much of them as we did things are still good so once again we became Aunties.
However since Baby girl no. 2 there have been some small fallings out, and then a much bigger one when the idiot fiancée took to Facebook to slag off my dad so we are no longer as close as we used to be.
As well as these small arguments, there has been some massive changes in my life in between the arrive of Baby girl no. 2 and the soon to be with us Baby no. 3 mainly I am now living with OH and with his unwillingness to get married again this is about as committed as the two of us are going to get. So does he now become an Uncle?
When I got the phone call to tell me Baby no. 3 was on her/his way I didn’t immediately grab the phone to tell him. In fact I didn’t tell him until I realised that my sister had told her boyfriend, manly because I thought he wouldn’t care. However, this got even more cogs turning. We are as committed to each other as we will get, doesn’t this mean that my family is now his family and vice versa?
Or do you only become an Uncle when married? That was my sisters point when I discussed this with her.
OH has told his nephews they can call me Aunty, which resulted in a question from them of “why are you getting married?” silence from the adult family members and a quick diversion of conversation by OH. His best friends kids have started to call me aunty so why am I holding back on making him an Uncle? Is it even up to me?
I am sure it wasn’t like this in fairy tales! Whatever happened to boy meets girl, they fall in love, get married and ride off into the sunset on a white horse!